You guys, I am SO excited since one of my best friends is PREGNANT! She is getting LOTS of advice during her pregnancy already, which made me think about a post I wrote for Smart Mom a few months back! I decided to post a version of it over here on my blog, since many of you may not have seen it. Too many opinions can be stressful to take in, especially as a new mom, but here’s some common baby advice that I am seeing now is actually pretty useful!
Here are 9 pieces of baby advice that is actually useful:
1. Never wake a sleeping baby: Sleep training and baby schedules are very common these days. So it may be temping to wake your little one if they are sleeping too long, but don’t. Not every nap will be the same, especially when you have a newborn.
2. You can’t spoil a baby: Newborns crave human touch and attention. Scientists have studied this theory and it turns out your mom was right when she says you can’t spoil a baby. In fact, researchers have found that babies whose needs were immediately met actually grow up to be more confident.
3. Talk to your newborn: You will notice most grandmothers talk to their grandchildren all the time, especially newborns. It was commonly thought that talking out loud through your normal routines is beneficial for a baby and studies have found that to be true. It helps your little one recognize sounds and words. It may feel silly at first, but if your baby is in a swing while you do the dishes, explain what you are doing. “Now I am washing the plates, and then I will put them in the dishwasher.” Speak slowly and clearly, but talk the same way you normally would. You baby will reap the rewards.
4. Sleep when your baby sleeps: In those first few weeks, sleep deprivation is at an all time high. So the age old advice to sleep when your little one is sleeping is a good one. It may be temping to get other things done while your baby is napping, but if you are exhausted… you should try to get some rest while you can.
5. Don’t forget to eat: When you are tending to a new baby, it is easy to forget to eat. It is extremely important to get the nutrition you need, especially if you are breastfeeding and as you recover from childbirth.
6. It’s okay to ask for help: If you feel overwhelmed and stressed out, it is okay to ask for help. Your baby will be fine if you leave him or her with grandma or a friend while you get some sleep, or even just enjoy some time to yourself.
7. Leave your house dirty: In the first few months, the adjustment of getting used to a baby will be a big one. Enjoy this precious time with your newborn, and don’t worry about housework. The dishes and laundry can wait.
8. Be nice to your husband: Taking care of a newborn is a full-time job, and all the extra responsibility in addition to lack of sleep, may make you irritable. Remember this is a big change for your husband too, so try to cut each other a break.
9. Trust your instincts: No matter what anyone tells you, no one understands your babies needs more than you. Your motherly instincts are almost always spot-on. Be confident in yourself and your decisions… and listen to your mother when she tells you that you are doing an awesome job! (because you are!)
What is the best piece of baby advice you got as a new mom?
This post originally ran on Smart Mom.