I love being a mom, there’s no denying that. However, every once in awhile I am reminded of things I routinely did before having them… that I TOTALLY took for granted. My friends who don’t have kids yet are often surprised by the things I tell them to savor now.
Here are 12 things I took for granted before having kids:
1. Naps (and sleep in general): I think most moms are with me on this one. Sleep is kind of obvious, moms don’t sleep. (at least with my kids, I don’t.) But I used to LOVE taking naps. Naps on the couch in the middle of the day for no reason at all. I mean, I probably wasn’t even TIRED.
3. Watching TV: I love reality TV. I have hours and hours of all my favorite trashy reality TV shows stuck on my TiVo since I never get to watch it. Once the kids are in bed, my hubby and I watch the news (yes, we DVR the news since I don’t have that stuff on when the kids are awake) and then I usually don’t feel like watching anything else.
4. Going to the Mall: I NEVER go to the mall. EVER. I do all my clothes shopping online or at Target, since they also happen to sell diapers, food and wine. I know a lot of people hate going to the mall, but I always loved it. It was the best just walking around and eating lunch by myself.
5. Running Errands after Work: Back in the day, I used to love stopping at random stores on my way home from work. (Marshall’s and HomeGoods come to mind) Now I rush home, since I know my husband is struggling to make dinner with two crazy kids running around. I also don’t want to miss our family dinners.
6. Personal Upkeep: Salon visits and pedicures are few and far between these days. I don’t like being away from the kids on the weekend so I only make these appointments when they are DESPERATELY needed. That means I look like a hot mess a good majority of the time.
7. Warm Food: I rarely consume anything warm. My breakfasts, dinners and my coffee are almost always cold. There are many reasons why this happens. The second I sit down my son will ask for more milk, or my daughter will cry since I didn’t give her the PURPLE spoon, so I have to get up… track down said spoon.. wash it… dry it.. reassure her that it is, in fact, her favorite purple spoon until I can finally take a bite of my own (now chilly) dinner. Sometimes I make those microwave breakfast sandwiches, and I will forget I even made it, until I randomly open the microwave to find it still sitting there.
8. Seeing my Friends Whenever I Wanted: I used to call my friends and say, “Let’s go grab sushi!” or “Want to take a spin class later?” It was SO easy to see them. Now it’s like, “Hey.. do you want to have dinner the 4th Tuesday of this month?” or “Let’s all get babysitters and go on a double date!” It is so much harder to make it all work out, since even with our attempts to plan ahead, a kid is bound to get sick or one of our husbands has to work late therefore cancelling our big GNO plans.
9. Lying Out: Yes, I know the sun is bad for you, but used to LOVE lying out. A big hat, a great book or magazine, a cocktail and I was SET. It is impossible to lie out with children around… but maybe I will have fewer wrinkles because of it.
10. Feeling Put Together: Since having kids, I always feel like a total cluster. Before children, I would thoughtfully select my outfit and shoes before heading to work. I would have my lunch and whatever paperwork I needed ready to go the night before. Now I don’t even realize what I am wearing until I get to work and take a look at myself. Some days, the first time I brush my hair is in the car before walking into the office. If I am wearing actual shoes (instead of the flip flops I wear to take the dog for a walk before leaving in the morning) then I consider it a win.
11. Money: I vaguely remember something green called money. I used to spend it on tons of clothes for myself and designer jeans. I would buy $7 smoothies and $60 bras. Now I pay 40 bucks for a box a diapers for my daughter to poop in. My kids literally s**t on my money.
12. My Parents: This is the biggest one. To this day, I still apologize to my mother for the way I acted as a teenager. I wish my dad was still alive, not only so he could meet my kids… but so I could THANK HIM for everything he did that make my childhood so amazing. Now that I am a parent, I realize all the sacrifices they made for me. One day, perhaps my kids will do the same.What are some of the things you took for granted before having kids?