It’s my birthday! Woot! Woot! I am officially 35 years old! Leaving your 20’s is tough, I remember having a hard time when I turned 30. Not anymore. I feel like this is the perfect age. (until next year… then THAT will be the perfect age)
Here are 10 ways I am better now than I was 10 years ago:
1. I stopped comparing. I used to always worry about what other people had. I would compare jobs, homes, clothes… whatever. These days, I don’t care about that stuff. Someone is always going to be richer, skinnier, more successful. Now I am happy and thankful for what I have, and I don’t waste my time comparing.
2. No more second-guessing. In my 20’s, I was always second guessing myself. Now, I am more confident in my decisions. I am always open to advice, but I have found that trusting my instincts has rarely let me down.
|I kept it understated for my 21st… as you can see.|
3. I’ve learned to say, “No!” I can’t tell you how many times I have stressed myself out by taking on more than I can chew. I thought I could do it all, but now I am wise enough to know I can’t. So I have learned to use a wonderful word… NO. “I’m sorry, I can’t make it to two birthday parties in one day.” “Brunch sounds great, but this week was exhausting so I am going to have to pass.” Once you realize that ‘No’ is a perfectly acceptable answer, your life will become much easier.
4. I am more forgiving. I spent many years of my life holding onto grudges. I have abruptly ended many friendships after getting hurt. But now I am much more forgiving. No one is perfect, and I have made plenty of mistakes. I try to consider both sides of the story, and talk about my feelings with people before just cutting them off altogether. But on the other hand…
5. I know when to let go. Even though I am way more forgiving than I used to be… I still know when it is time to let go. If I have someone in my life who refuses to make me a priority in the same way I do for them… or consistently lets me or my family down… I no longer try to hold onto the relationship. I don’t need people in my life who aren’t true and if a conversation doesn’t resolve the situation, I am okay with that. I am mature enough now to wish them the best… and move on.
|My hubby threw me the BEST 30th birthday party!|
6. I am more comfortable with my body. After having two kids… there is no denying my body has seen better days. And while I may have looked better in a bikini 10 years ago, I FEEL better in one now. I am much more accepting of my body and my flaws.
7. I enjoy myself more. I am much better at living in the moment. I try to enjoy what I am doing while it is actually happening. I don’t worry about when the vacation will be over, I just enjoy the vacation. I try not to think about all the things I have to do while I am spending time with my kids. I have a long way to go with this one, but I am definitely better at it than I was 10 years ago.
8. I worry less. I will admit, I have a certain level of anxiety that is always around. I try to keep it under control, but I have always been a nervous person. As I get older, I have learned that worrying doesn’t change the outcome, and usually I spend time worrying about something that never ends up happening anyway.
|I got married 10 years ago this November!|
9. I’m better at giving compliments. For some reason, when I was younger… I didn’t give many compliments. I used to feel uncomfortable when I was complimented, so I never really gave them out. Now I try to give AT LEAST 3 compliments a day. They aren’t forced, but often I find myself thinking, “Wow, she looks great in that dress.” or “He got a haircut, it looks nice.” Now, I just tell those people what I am thinking. I especially enjoy complimenting people on a job well done… and my favorite people to compliment are my sweet hubby & kids!
10. I am always thankful. From the moment I wake up to the moment I go to sleep, I try to remind myself to be thankful. When you really think about it, there is always something to be thankful for. I write these things down each night in my journal. When you are thankful and grateful for what you have, you become a happier person overall. And isn’t that the ultimate goal?