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Selfish Mom Moments

                     

I love being a mom. I love it more than I ever thought I would. But sometimes, I have selfish mom moments. Today I am home with two sick babies. And while I am thankful that I can be home to take care of them… this is not how my Friday was supposed to go.

I am filling in at work this weekend, so I already had today off. And I had plans. Big plans. Just for me. I decided I was going to have the sitter come even though I didn’t have work and I was going to take the whole glorious day for myself. Something I rarely do.

Here’s how my day was supposed to go:

  • Wake up refreshed after a fantastic nights sleep
  • Snuggle with my kids
  • Clap and cheer when my sweet sitter arrived
  • Take a hot yoga class at a fancy spa since I have a day pass there (that I have been wanting to use for MONTHS)
  • Sit in the sauna at said fancy spa
  • Lay out by the pool at said fancy spa and read 
  • Meet a friend for lunch
  • Get my nails done (mani *AND* pedi)
  • Go food shopping & to Target by myself
  • Get home in time to let my sitter leave early
  • Go out to dinner with the whole family (we never get to do this since I usually get home late on Friday’s)

And here is how today is actually going (so far):

  • I finally dragged myself out of bed after waking up a million times with my sweet sick babies
  • Made A LOT of coffee and attempted to get them eat breakfast
  • Sit on the couch and watch TV since baby girl only wants to be held and my dear boy just wants to rest (I pretty much think this is where I will be for the rest of the day)

Now I have spent many, many days home with sick kids. But yesterday, as the calls and texts started coming in from my sitter about the deteriorating situation, I couldn’t help but think, “Well, this SUCKS.” Because (at first) I really wanted MY day. I know I am probably NOT supposed to say that… but my feelings about it all have since changed.

Nothing like watching 2 sick kids beat each other up. (actually Mila is the only abusive one, Hudson just takes it)
Even though I missed my workout and my nails still look like crap, I am getting a day FULL of so much more! A day FULL of snuggles. A day FULL of reminders of just how much my kids need ME. A day FULL of feeling loved. Even the fanciest spa can’t give me that.

When was the last time you had a selfish mom moment? (be honest… we’ve ALL had them!)

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Comments

  1. Valerie says

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    Big *hugs* to you, mama!! While it's a rare event for me to have anything even remotely close to a spa day (which sounds AMAZING, btw!), I can totally relate about being disappointed because of broken plans. I'm sorry you have to spend the day on the couch, but I'm very happy that your kids have a mommy to take care of them. XO

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    • Lauren says

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      It's actually turning out to be a great day, which is why I wrote the post (while they were napping lol) I think we all have those moments, but then realize later how dumb we were for feeling that way… I am getting unlimited snuggles today, and with no place to go and nothing to do.. I just get to enjoy it!! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. Melissa Matters says

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    I'm sorry your kids are sick! I remember planning a trip to San Diego and our kids got sick the day before. I was so bummed because we rarely go on vacation.

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    • Lauren says

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      That's way worse! My son has vacation radar, he gets pink eye before EVERY vaca! We have a joke about it now.. and we always have prescription eye drops on hand!

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  3. Aileen Brian Van Pelt says

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    Hope the kiddos are feeling better. I think it's natural to have selfish days, but of course, when that doesn't happen, we realize how much more we are blessed because of our kiddos. I do at times long for the good ole college days or those days early in my career when I thought I was SO busy. I also wrote about taking care of sick kiddos but with a different view. Would love if you would give it a read, Lauren – http://bit.ly/npsickkid.

    http://www.newsyparents.com

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    • Lauren says

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      I know! My husband and I always say "what did we DO before we had kids?" I am glad I'm home with them now, I think if I was still feeling bratty about it I wouldn't have been able to post it. haha! I will go check out your stuff now! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  4. onlyashes85 says

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    Amen. I am so sorry that your day didn't work out (seriously, that day sounded MAGICAL) Don't feel too bad for feeling discouraged. I would have felt the exact same way. But how awesome that you could be there with them, I am sure that they are always going to remember that as they grow.

    I hope that you get a do over and that your babies are feeling a lot better, very soon!

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    • Lauren says

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      Yes, it ended up being a great day… but there was that second of 'UGH'. But if I would have had to go to work today I would have been so upset that I wouldn't have been there with them. Thanks for taking the time to stop by and comment!

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  5. Rebekah Carrington says

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    Your planned day sounded positively sinful. Sick babes are the sweetest, neediest babes, though. You're right…not even the best day spa can make you as happy as little ones…even when they're snotty and beating up on each other ?

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    • Lauren says

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      And vomiting… there was lots of vomit involved. Haha! But you are right, they were beyond sweet & snuggly today… it was great!

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  6. shelah moss says

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    I know how you feel. It can be draining (but worth it) when you have to drop your plans because someone in your family needs you.

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    • Lauren says

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      Yes! And while it was a short lived pouting session, I just feel like it something we never talk about! Thanks for taking the time to comment, I ended up having a great day with the kiddos. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  7. Starla J. says

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    ((hugs)) Thanks for being real. I live on coffee.

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    • Lauren says

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      Haha Me too! And wine… lots of wine! Thanks for understanding what I was trying to say and taking the time to comment! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  8. Branson says

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    Oh yes… I can definitely relate!! Sometimes it is so hard to shift focus to the positive!

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    • Lauren says

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      I def try to stay positive… but I was having a moment! ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  9. Kristen Hewitt says

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    THIS is AWESOME! Talk about a GREAT perspective. You win mom of the year in my book….what great inspiration. BTW…that sounded like a kick ass selfish mom day, and I have a feeling the universie will reward you with it soon!

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    • Lauren says

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      Thank you! I am glad you 'got' what I was trying to say. I was worried how I would come off… but I really was annoyed for a second! haha I couldn't help it!

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  10. Echo A says

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    It's hard sometimes! We want what's best for them, but sometimes we need a little "me" time! I like to take the occasional "Selfish Sunday"!

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    • Lauren says

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      Selfish Sunday! That sounds perfect! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  11. JoAnn says

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    Sick kiddos are never fun! It is so hard to take time for yourself. I always feel selfish when I even have the littlest break. Must be our mother mentality.

    JoAnn
    Whimsicle

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    • Lauren says

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      I know it, mommy guilt! Even if they were well, I prob would have felt guilty about taking the day to myself anyway! Go figure.. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  12. Samantha Jade Minor says

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    I recently had a selfish mom moment. The family promised me one day to myself each week calling it mommy's day off. Lets just say nothing went according to plan and we haven't talked about it since. There is nothing wrong or selfish about wanting to take time to ourselves. I believe it makes better equipped to take care of the little ones. Stopping by from Sits Girls!

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    • Lauren says

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      Thanks for stopping by!! ๐Ÿ™‚ Sounds like a good plan in theory, but mommy's never get a day off! A for effort from your family for at least realizing you need a break, even if you never got one!

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  13. Adanna of Rattles and Heels says

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    Oh, I love this post. I completely understand.

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    • Lauren says

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      We've all been there, right? (at least I hope I'm not the only one! ) Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment!

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  14. Marissa D says

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    Oh my selfish mom moments often come in a few days at a time…. and they usually come with less sleep… as in the less sleep I get, the more selfish I am about my time and needs… it's a horrible mommy cycle!

    I really appreciated your honesty, and am going to share this with Salt & Light, a link up to share posts that inspire and encourage us moms.

    I'd love for you join in if you want

    Marissa
    http://raysofgraceandjoy.blogspot.com

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    • Lauren says

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      Thank you for adding my link… I will go check out other blogs now! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  15. Valerie Pierre says

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    I had a selfish mom WEEK! My husband was on vacation for the new year and in my mind I was gonna make sure to keep the kids (2 & 4yrs old) really occupied so dad can chill out some. That did not happen. I napped more than a newborn pup. I didn't cook everyday it was take out and I let a lot of stuff slide. It really felt great to not do one single thing.

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