I am a very honest person. I always say what is on my mind, and sometimes it gets me in trouble. Especially with my kids. Even since Hudson was little… if he asked me a question… I answered it honestly.
For example, we often talk about our old dog, Roxy. Roxy passed away when Hudson was 2 years old. Then about 2 years later, Santa brought us Punky. Every once in awhile, Hudson will say how he missed Roxy and remembers her. I always tell him she went to doggie heaven and it was never an issue. Until a few months ago.
At that moment, Hudson started HYSTERICALLY CRYING. Like crazy, not even taking a breath, red-faced, real tears crying.
I will spare you the next 20 minutes… but after attempting to reason with him… I finally gave up and just LIED. I told him I made a mistake and just remembered that Punky would never go to doggie heaven. She was going to be with him forever.
|My kids with their magical dog who will never die.|
Now I just figure, if it is something my kid is eventually going to figure out when he is old enough, then I can lie to him about it now… while he is too young to understand it. Since then he’s asked me if I am going to die. If dad is going to die. And if his sister is ever going to die. Obviously the answer to all of those questions right now is No. Nope. Never. We are never going to die.
I’m sure this is probably NOT the right way to handle the situation. But I just didn’t know what else to do.
However, when he asks me things that concern his safety, I am honest. He asked me one day if kidnappers were real. I told him they are very real. His question surprised me, since I ALWAYS talk to him about stranger danger and who he can and can’t talk to, etc. I’m not sure if he was testing me or what, but I made it very clear and went over all the rules I have told him in the past.
Do you ever lie to your kids?
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