My 6 year old is going through a ‘ninja’ stage. He loves everything and anything ninja related. He happens to have a green shirt with a ninja on it, that was a Christmas gift from family. Thanks to his current obsession, I have been having to wash that shirt at least a few times a week. He wears it all. the. time.
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| All ninja. All the time. |
The end result is… interesting.
Now my daughter is starting to get picky with her clothes. She is only 17 months old!! She opens her drawer, holds up clothes and shakes her head ‘No’ and puts it back or nods ‘Yes’ and hands it to me to dress her. If I don’t agree with her decision she will run away from me screaming. She also is obsessed with the same two outfits. (see one of them below)
I did try for awhile, to buy my son what I consider ‘cute’ outfits. Clothes like my husband wears, but in little boy sizes. They would just SIT in his dresser. And the one or two t-shirts that he liked would be worn over and over again. Finally, I just gave up. Now, the only time I make him wear an outfit I selected, is on Christmas Eve & Easter.
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| This past Easter, Hudson started in one outfit, but somehow ended up wearing one of ‘his’ shirts before the day was done. |
However, he always loves what he is wearing and I ALWAYS compliment his outfit. For kids, especially young kids, choosing the way they dress is one of the few decisions they can actually make on their own. I think it is important to give them this small freedom as a way to build confidence, in themselves and in their choices. So for now, my dreams of making my son and daughter matching mini fashion icons will have to wait. And let’s be real, that means I would have to step up MY fashion game, and we all know that ain’t happening.
What are some ways you help build your child’s confidence?
I left a comment – I think?! LOVE this….and totally agree with you. I say let them #bewhoyouwanttobe
Great advice!
Thanks Kristen! It is hard sometimes when I see other kids dressed so cute, but they must just have better taste than my son!! 😉
you can always tell the difference btwn the kids who dress themselves and the kids whose parents do – so cute!
Totally! (& I feel like my son is often the only one in that first group!!)
My little guys pick out their clothes every morning. They both have a few shirts they love. If I try to sneak a different one on…meltdowns ensue! 😉
I am glad I am not alone here! It is crazy how they can be so opinionated at such a young age!
My 7 year old is the same way, makes for some interesting outfits. Pick your battles I guess 🙂
I truly understand the meaning of that saying now that I have kids! Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to comment!
My 6 year old comes up with some interesting combinations, but he loves to pick out his own outfits. My favorite was when he wanted to be 'fancy' for a party… button-up shirt, tie, and orange basketball shorts, lol.
OMG.. that 'fancy' outfit sounds amazing! I hope you got some cute pics! 😉
I have "nice" outfits for my boys that don't get worn and since I'm the working Mommy right now and Daddy is dressing the everyday..they end up in random t-shirts and basketball shorts…just like Dad! LOL! However, it doesn't make them any less cute!
Oh don't even get me STARTED on daddy dressing! That is an entirely different post! 🙂
LOL! I can so relate! Totally a "boy" thing. I also have three who are probably on the Spectrum, and who at the very least have MAJOR sensory issues. So more often than not, two of the three end up with no clothes on throughout the day. The other has holes in the back of his shirts because he can't stand the tags. I grew up with sensory issues and know how frustrating and debilitating it can be, so I try to be sensitive to them.
When we go to church, they can usually handle it for the time we're there. I've noticed that as soon as we come home, nice clothes come off. 😉
God bless!
At least they deal with the clothes when they have to, and I would have to agree with them that no clothes is always more comfy! 😉 Sounds like you are an amazingly wonderful and patient momma and your boys are blessed to have you! Have a great weekend and thanks for stopping by!
In all fairness… I would wear that green ninja shirt!!! I love it 🙂 I think it's wonderful to give your children options and expression. I've blogged about my daughter's favorite TEA outfit, I finally had to donate it 🙁 too small. My son use to love ties, he's a throwback button downs and khakis & of corse Star Wars.
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Haha! I will SEND you that green ninja shirt! I will have to check out your post about your daughter's outfit!! Have a wonderful weekend! 😉
LOVE this post!! I've always let my boys (now 16&13) wear what they want,as long as it's "clean & presentable" lol Now they are SO boring..jeans/shorts &t-shirts/hoodies every day! 2yo daughter hasn't shown much enthusiasm YET…(yikes!)
Yes, my girl is a sassy one… I have a feeling we are in big trouble with her! 😉
I think it's awesome you do this! My daughter usually picks out what she wants to wear. I agree that the end result can be interesting. However, it's important that they get to choose.
I agree, the world is so tough sometimes, why can't they feel fabulous with the choices they make at home? 😉 Have a great day and thanks for stopping by!!
I am seriously going through this right now! My son who is almost 9 is doing ok with his fashion sense, if you want to call it that. But my 4 year old daughter well that's a different story entirely! She 'knows' she has fashion sense, lol! Omg! The concoctions of outfits she comes up with! I have grown to be comfortable with the idea of letting her dress herself AND actually go out of the house 'like that!'
I can totally see my daughter becoming the same way! I think the issue was almost more with ME feeling a bit embarrassed when I stepped out with my son dressed crazy. Then I realized that HE felt great about himself, so why should I stop him? 😉
I let my children choose their clothes too. There's really so little that they can "control" when their young… allowing them to select their own clothes can give them such a sense of accomplishment and pride.
Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).
Wishing you a lovely weekend!
xoxo
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I wish my 3 year old wanted to dress herself. The only thing she says is she wants pants-no shorts! Even if it's really hot out. I'm sure she'll be clashing her outfits before I know it-and I can tell her how amazing she looks. 🙂
That is so funny! Well at least she is modest, that is always a good thing! 😉 Maybe she just has really good taste.. unlike my son! HA!