We are all busy. Careers, kids, husbands… women today do-it-all. I work full-time so my family is my main priority on the weekends. We all need to take time for ourselves, but what about time with friends?
I feel pretty lucky that I live where I grew up. Many of my friends who I have known since middle school are still nearby. Soon after we all started having kids, getting more demanding jobs, and just taking on more responsibilities in general… I noticed those girls nights out and lunch dates started to taper off. And that is totally normal. But the few times we would all get together, we would have SO MUCH FUN!
So now, in the daily to-do’s and priorities in my life… I always make sure to include my friends in the mix. Everyone is busy. We can always say we don’t have time to meet up and it wouldn’t be a lie. It may not be as easy as it used to be, but with a little extra effort and some planning you can make sure the friends who are near and dear to you… stay that way.
|Yes, my friend scheduled our dinner date with her Google calendar!|
When I am feeling stressed and worn out, no matter how much I don’t feel like going, a quick dinner with my close friends, or even just sneaking away for a spin class or pedicure together… can make all the difference. I always feel refreshed and revived after spending a few hours with my girls.
It turns out, keeping those friendships is good for your health. A number of studies have found that friends help you fight depression and illness, speed recovery, and even slow the aging process and help you live longer! That’s pretty amazing!
|I have known these two girls for more than 20 years! We just had to recreate our kids pose!|
Now that my baby girl is a little older, a least twice a month I make plans with my friends. Usually its on a weeknight, since we are all pretty booked on the weekends with family stuff. When that doesn’t work, sometimes we will plan a play date with our kids. We may not get to fully catch up, since we are chasing around kids, but just hanging out for a few hours is all you need. (and then your children become friends as well, which is an added bonus!)
|No sitter? No problem!|
So make time for your friends. Right now, schedule a date with a close friend. If they don’t live near you, give them a call. Be sure those who are closest to you know that you still care and think about them. Share some wine, a laugh, a cry… whatever. It does take effort, but it is worth it!