People look at me with shock and dismay when I tell them my daughter (who is 15 months old) still does not sleep through the night. On most nights she wakes up twice. That is the usual. Sometimes she is up more. Some nights (and these are REALLY few and far between) she sleeps the whole night through. Family members and (more often) strangers are always happy to give me suggestions.
|Mom, let’s snuggle on the carpet and watch TV at 3am… again.|
Luckily, these comments don’t even faze me. You see… this isn’t my first rodeo. My son didn’t sleep either. (they say if you have one non-sleeper, your next child will definitely be a good sleeper. False.) Since he was my first child I was desperate to find out what I was doing wrong. Everyone I knew who had kids around the same time as me had kids that were sleeping all night long. So I read every book I could find. The No-Cry Sleep Solution, the Happiest Baby on the Block, Babywise. I researched Ferber. I had endless nights of the 5 S’s, I timed out screaming sessions into 5, 10, 20 minute intervals and more. I did what I was “supposed” to do. We had a bedtime routine, I put him in the crib sleepy but awake. If he cried, I would walk in, lay him back down, and walk out. It didn’t matter WHAT I did. That kid Would. Not. Sleep. Until he was ready.
|This is how she used to sleep, it would give me a heart attack every time.|
So with my daughter, I gave up. I go in when she cries. I even PICK HER UP. (gasp!!!) If she doesn’t settle right away I will (you may want to sit down for this part…) GIVE HER A BOTTLE. All of these things HORRIFY my pediatrician, but I don’t care. My sitter, who has cared for many kids and has three of her own, says she has never seen a baby so stubborn when it comes to sleep and no matter what she tries she just cannot get her on a schedule. My husband and I live in a sleep deprived fog that is familiar to us. But I don’t stress about it. Not anymore. I know the time will come when she decides she is ready to sleep all night. Every night.
|See.. she sleeps. Just not in her crib.|
My son was finally ready for regular slumber when he turned 2. He started crawling out of his crib every night just before his 2nd birthday. After finding him asleep on the couch almost every morning, we finally caved and bought a big boy bed. Suddenly, my sweet baby who would never sleep (and NEVER EVER nap) started sleeping through the night regularly and going in for naps at the same time each day. He is still a awesome sleeper.
|Hudson & his sleeping buddy, Punky|
I see the exact same behavior in my daughter, but this time around, I trust my instincts. Not every kid becomes a good sleeper at 3 months. And when you feel like everyone you know has kids who sleep through the night, while you are pulling your hair out at 3am with a crying 1 year old, just know you aren’t alone. And try not to stress, it’s such a short time, it will pass. I promise. So for now, I will just wait for her to come around. And drink coffee. Lots and lots of coffee.
|Mom, grab another cup of coffee and let’s snuggle!|