The other day I was walking out of my house to take my son to school and I caught a glimpse of myself in the mirror. And it hit me. I had become ‘that’ mom. The mom I had judged before I had kids. Back then, I was the woman who knew EVERYTHING about kids… even though I didn’t actually have any of my own. But, you know, I babysat my whole life, so obviously I was a parenting expert. I am a little bit embarrassed to even write this post, since I was waaaaay off on many of my views and judgements. Here we go..
“I will never drop my kids off at school wearing my pajamas, I mean who doesn’t have 5 seconds to throw on something decent?” I will just start with the one that gave me the idea for this whole post. Before I had kids, I would go for walks before work, and occasionally I would catch school drop off. I was horrified (and quite frankly, terrified) by how some of the moms looked. I mean I would never go out in public like that. Ripped, old pajama pants, hair not even brushed… no bra!? I mean, COME ON. Well, these days I still manage to throw on a bra (or at least a sports bra) but that’s about it. I don’t get ready for work until I get back from taking my son to school, so after wrangling with a 6 year old to get him awake, fed, dressed, homework packed, teeth brushed, socks on, lunches and snacks packed… sometimes I just don’t have time to change. And I don’t really care. It does make me laugh every time I walk out of the door looking like a hot mess though.
|I woke up like this. Then, I went out in public like this.|
“Yikes, your kids sleep in your bed? I will NEVER let that happen, I am too light a sleeper… also my bedroom is for my husband and I only!” HAHAHAHAHAHA! This is one of my favorites. I was actually pretty good about this personal rule with Hudson… but Mila is way more demanding at night than he was. Both my kids sucked at sleeping, and Mila still does. We all sleep all over the place… couches, our bed, the kids bed… it’s a regular game of musical beds.
“I will never let my kids dress like that.” When I used to see kids dressed all sorts of crazy, with mismatched outfits covered in obnoxious characters I thought, “No way, not my kids… I just won’t even BUY the stuff so they won’t have the option.” Ummmm.. have you seen the way my kids dress?? Don’t get me wrong, I think they look GREAT and I love that they enjoy selecting their own outfits. It’s just not the polished, matching, neutral kids style I had imagined. (who knew kids actually have their OWN opinion?)
|I think they look even CUTER than all those fashionable toddlers on Instagram!|
“Did you see her house? It’s like primary colors puked all over her living room.” I always planned on having a small area for kids toys, but insisted that my home would not look like a daycare. Well, if you have ever been to my house you know I have toys EVERYWHERE including a ‘guest’ room that is filled with kids stuff. And I like it that way.
“My kids will only eat organic, and I will make all their baby food.” I did make most of Hudson’s baby food, but by the time Mila came along… I was over it. They have so many organic options now (way more than when I had Hudson) so it was easier to find healthy choices. I am not even CLOSE to being as strict with food as I once was, but I still have certain products that I always buy organic.
|Ummm.. that’s organic pizza… and ice cream…|
“Why won’t that woman just pick up her screaming child?” When I used to see a mom pushing a screaming child in a shopping cart I would think, “Why won’t she just stop and calm down that baby?” Now I am often the mother getting all those stares. Mila is the queen of spontaneous freak-outs. And there is NO talking her out of it. The other day as she was screaming her way through Michael’s for no reason at all, I spotted a woman STARING at me. And I know she was thinking the same thing I did before I had kids. But there was no calming her down… if I had picked her up she would have screamed more. I ran into the same woman while checking out, and she said, “Why is she screaming?? What is wrong?” I looked at the woman, shrugged my shoulders and replied, “Uhhh… I don’t know.. because she is two?” And I went on my way. When we got in the car, Mila was happy as a clam. Go figure.
“Oh my gosh, did you hear that woman? I am never going to yell at my kids like that.” I swore to myself that I would always be a calm ‘let’s talk this through’ mom. I would NOT be a yeller. Well.. here I am… that crazy, yelling mom. It’s only with my son though. I truly believe he doesn’t register what is being said to him below a certain decibel. I have tried every method, but right now, yelling is all that works. I will even say, “Hudson, I’ve asked you 8 times to put your backpack away… are you really going to make me yell at you so you will listen?” I am still trying to yell less…but I am a yeller nonetheless.
So there you have it. All the super judgy things I thought about other moms before I had my own kids. I find them hilarious now. So now it’s your turn… SPILL IT!! If you have kids… tell me something you thought before you had them that you are almost embarrassed to admit now that you are a mom!